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 WHAT IS DOMESTIC VIOLENCE?

 

Are you (or someone you know) in an abusive relationship? *  

 

What we Believe about Domestic Violence:

We believe that domestic violence is rooted in a culture which legitimizes the use of violence by the "more powerful" to establish and maintain power and control over those with less power.

Since women and children generally have less power and have historically been seen as the "property of men", society continues to sanction violence against women and children in many ways .

Domestic violence is also a learned behavior which works for a batterer if there are no consequences or punishment. Without Intervention, the battering behavior is likely to repeat from generation to generation as children learn that violence is an effective means to get what they want.

The violence is reinforced by community members and organizations if they fail to respond to domestic violence as a serious crime and instead as a legitimate use of power. We are dedicated to ending domestic violence and eliminating discrimination.

Therefore, Shelter House, Inc. responds to domestic violence by providing appropriate, culturally specific resources for safety and protection to survivors of domestic violence and their children.

Shelter House assists survivors in making decisions about their lives. Staff also work to change the community attitudes and systems which perpetuate violence against women and other groups.

Domestic violence is a pattern of intimidation and abuse that batterers use to control their partners. Abuse comes in many forms. (See the lists below for types of abuse and their symptoms.)

Safety planning is critical, whether you (or a friend) are in an abusive relationship or are in the process of leaving one. The risk of violence increases directly after people leave their abusive partners. You must develop a
safety plan; it can help save your life and your children's lives.

Types of Abuse and their Symptoms*

Physical Abuse

  • Pushing
  • Punching
  • Choking
  • Kicking
  • Burning
  • Biting
  • Spitting
  • Shooting
  • Stabbing


Sexual Abuse

  • Unwanted touching
  • Sexual name calling
  • Using violence with sex
  • Unfaithfulness
  • Forcing sex

Economic Abuse

  • Preventing you from getting a job or keeping one
  • Not allowing you access to family income.
  • Giving you an allowance.
  • Making you ask for money and account for all spending.

Emotional Abuse

  • Using Jokes to demean
  • Constantly criticizing
  • Labeling as crazy, stupid, bitch, or whore
  • Humiliating.
  • Threatening to harm, leave, destroy, property, kidnap the children, commit suicide, report you to immigration or welfare.
  • Forcing you to drop criminal charges or commit illegal acts.
  • Using looks, actions, and gestures to intimidate.
  • Destroying property.
  • Abusing pets.
  • Displaying weapons.
  • Stalking.
  • Not allowing you to see or speak with family/friends.
  • Denying you access to the car.
  • Limiting your contact with the outside world.
  • Making light of the abuse or denying it happened.
  • Blaming others for abuse.
* Adapted from pages published in the WEAVE (Women Empowered Against Violence) website located at: http://www.weaveincorp.org/about

 

 

 

 




 



 

 

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